When one dies or is suffering from a horrible loss we all go through five stages of grief. You go through denial because the loss is not feasible, we can imagine that this is real. It gets angry against everyone against survivors, against ourselves. Then there is an arrangement, we beg, we plead, we offer everything we have, we offer our own souls in exchange for one more day. When negotiations fail anger is difficult to contain, we fall into depression, despair, until finally accept that everything has been tried. Is left. We gave up and we accept. Grief may be a thing we have in common, but it is different for everyone. There is not that death which is done mourning, life, loss, change. And we wonder why it blocks all times, why it hurt so much, but the thing we must remember is that it can change. That's how we stay alive, when it hurts so bad that you can not breathe, that's how we survived. By remembering that one day, that somehow, you will feel more in the same way, it will no longer as bad. Grief comes to each in his time, in his own way. So the best we can do, the best anyone can do is resort to honesty. The really crappy thing, the worst part of grief is that you can not control it. The best we can do is try to let our feelings when they come. And let them go when you can. The worst thing is that the minute you think you have overcome, it starts again. And always, every time, you can not breathe. The grief has five stages. They all seem different, but there are always five: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.
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